"But we’ve worked through a lot this past year, and I know he is trying to put in more effort," she noted, before sharing the idea that her husband, 33, came up with to treat her on her birthday this ...

"I want to praise his effort but I also feel like this 'gift' doesn’t feel personal or thought out well, despite the effort," the woman wrote on Reddit Erin Clack is a Staff Editor for PEOPLE.